Mother’s Day from a Dad’s Perspective
Mother’s Day is another one of those Hallmark Holidays that generate excessive amounts of cute commercials of moms kissing their newborn babies’ toes, or moms spending quality time with their family. It’s also another one of those days when I cringe every time one of those commercials come on while my wife and I are sitting there trying to enjoy some down time together. I cringe because I know these commercials/images of moms spending time with their children inflicts pain on my wife.
These perfect moments of moms with their children are things that my wife will never get to experience and they are a reminder that we do not have living children. They are a reminder that our children are dead and that as a family, we do not fit into the advertisers’ demographics. Most people couldn’t bear to watch a commercial that included unthinkable pain reminding people to reach out to the grieving moms during this difficult time.
I remember going into a Hallmark store a few years back to purchase a Mother’s Day card for my wife. I asked the sales clerk if they had cards for moms that have lost a child. The look in her eyes was of shock and sadness and or course the answer was “I don’t think we do.” She continued to help me find something that was a little more neutral in tone.
If you know a grieving mom, reach out to her on Mother’s Day and give her a hug and let her know that the pain of this day does not go unrecognized.
Wishing all of the grieving moms a peaceful Mother’s Day. We are our child’s parents for as long as we live.
Kelly D. Farley (Bereaved Father)
(630) 561-5989 (Call Anytime)
The Grieving Dads Project.com